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Five Tips For Keeping Your Sanity During The Holiday Season
From the category Five Minute Articles For Your Consideration
The holidays are upon us and bringing with them more ups and downs than a fiddler’s bow.
The holiday season begins around Halloween and hits its first plateau at Thanksgiving before building to a frantic crescendo between Christmas and New Years. By the time we get into the New Year we’re weary, worn out, and weigh more than Santa himself. But salvation is close at hand since we still have our New Year’s resolutions to pardon us of our past indulgences by replacing them with massive restrictions. That’s the cycle of the Holiday Season; indulgence, salvation, restriction, repeat. Who said it’s the most wonderful time of the year! Continue Reading
Dec 10th, 201310 comments
Think About It…
From the category Fast Facts
In 2013 the following question was posted on reddit; If somebody from the 1950’s suddenly appeared today, what would be the most difficult thing to explain to them about life today? The answer is not surprising, but it is a little unsettling. Continue Reading
Dec 10th, 20149 comments
Couples Communication: Listening Without Reacting
From the category Five Minute Articles For Your Consideration
We often associate communication with what is being said and not with what is being heard. Research shows (Adler, R. et. al., 2001) that we spend approximately 30% more time listening than talking in communication, yet listening is far less understood. It doesn’t matter how good a communicator you are if nobody hears what you’re saying. One of the main differences between talking and listening is that you cannot prepare to listen. Continue Reading
Sep 22nd, 20142 comments
4 Ways For You To Think Like A Therapist
From the category Five Minute Articles For Your Consideration
It’s not that difficult to think like a therapist. A lot of it is just common sense. It’s not about knowing who is right or wrong, it’s about applying critical thinking to situations, having a good understanding of contextual information, knowing the role of empathy, staying current and relatable and being naturally curious. The art of doing psychotherapy, on the other hand, requires a lot of skill but thinking like a therapist can make a big difference right now in how you manage your problems. Continue Reading
Sep 22nd, 20142 comments
Can Karma Dance?
From the category Concepts In Motion
The short answer is, yes it can. However, to understand the motion of karma we have to view it in contrast to its close cousin, Determinism.
The philosophy of Determinism states that everything we do is directly related to our previous actions. In this way all of our actions hang together like unbroken links in a chain. Viewed three dimensionally, the links are influenced by our genetics, environmental factors and our personality makeup. Continue Reading
Sep 22nd, 20144 comments
The Emotional Marriage
From the category Five Minute Articles For Your Consideration
A marriage is an emotional journey; a mix of passion and pathos, attraction and repulsion, and dreams and defeats. Sometimes marriages survive, and sometimes they don’t (See blog entry, Why Marriages Fail; https://www.larrylaveman.com/2014/03/marriages-fail/). Regardless, there is always more to learn from a marriage than any other relationship in our adult life. We are fused to our mate in marriage. We are forced into honesty by the mere fact that we cannot escape. We are revealed, exposed, challenged, loved and rejected. Continue Reading
Jun 30th, 20142 comments
Everyday Mysticism: Part II
From the category Five Minute Articles For Your Consideration
From Unity to Duality: The Mystical Advantage of Polarities
In Part One of Everyday Mysticism we talked about Unity as representative of the Whole. However, in order for the Whole to perceive itself it must become the focus of its own inquiry. In doing so it becomes both a subject and an object, or a polarity. The focus of Part II is on the mystical advantage of polarities. Continue Reading
Mar 15th, 20141 comment
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Larry Laveman, LCSW, BCD, is a Psychotherapist and Author in Solana Beach, California. His publications include topics on marriage counseling, supervision, mental health and spirituality. He is the former Chief Clinical Director for Harmonium, Inc., a community based nonprofit organization specializing in children, adolescents and families. You can find contact him via Google +, LinkedIn, or this website's contact page.